Episode 032 - To Move Onward, You Must Look Inward
Can we get personal for a moment? We've talked about real estate, our businesses, our taxes and our time management--but we haven’t talked about you. Successful business people must know themselves, be honest about themselves and be able to manage themselves, too.
Let’s be honest, we can be our own worst enemy! Understanding our psychology takes an honest and introspective approach. Then, our businesses can move onward and upward to greater things!
Agents, stop beating yourselves up! We are ALL playing the same real estate game. Together, we can figure out ways to love ourselves so our clients can love us too!
SHOW NOTES
- 01:05 – HORRIBLE English accents going on and a discussion about Squirt (the soft drink).
- 02:55 – To move onward, you must look inward. As stated by Yoda and Chewbacca.
- 03:45 – Song of the Episode: "Carry On My Wayward Son" by Kansas. Kerry Livgren wrote the lyrics and it was an “autobiographical” look at his life.
- 05:09 – Looking inward to move onward. B’s reality check. This is Cate’s episode. She wants to talk about agent’s mental health. Cate made me do it. She is a psych major. Christian: B’s deft touch is stunning, sensitivity, and love in his words.
- 06:20 – Cate has creative reins on this. “Between Your Lines”. Cate will be much better at this topic than B.
- 07:10 – This episode is more of the philosophical piece that is also very important. Be prepared to handle things that are thrown our way. Business can be mentally draining.
- 07:50 – Cate: before B & Cate met, B would work a 90-hour week.
- 08:35 – Cate: work within five categories: family & friends, career, financial health, physical health, and mental/emotional health. Balance in all is vital to success.
- 09:50 – Many agents miss out. This industry can drain you, drag you down, make you into a “not nice” person. What are you sacrificing? Family, friends, mental health?? A-hole Brian time. Not a good guy. Working and making money was all that mattered. Yuck!!
- 12:00 – Cate’s Side Note Tangent: boats. Cate can interrupt her own show with her own tangent. Different types of motors: outboard, inboard, I/O (inboard/outboard), jet drive, and sail boats. B & Cate grew up with different types and the debate ensues. Don’t forget the fan boat.
- 16:26 – Scale each item from 1to 10. What does a 10 look like for you? Go through each category and visualize what would be ideal for you. Then analyze where you are at?
- 18:00 – A 10 is not perfect to everyone, but what is a 10 look like for you?
- 18:45 – Facebook and Pinterest tries to “show” you what a 10 is, but the reality is much different. That is not realistic. What is the 10 for you? Not the movie version.
- 20:10 – Christian: it is hard to assign a number because people want that good number.
- 20:20 – Cate: life coach; introspective learning; go through each category. Very challenging but also rewarding. Clearer picture and live your life more intentionally.
- 21:20 – You are not going to hit that 10 every day. Life is a journey, not an overnight change, and is filled with ups and downs. Get a life coach.
- 21:52 – Cate: a trained therapist can help. Accountability partner (not trained, but a respected friend or colleague) can help too. Many resources online.
- 22:18 – Take an individual vacation. Turn off phone and email. Take time for yourself to clear your head. B rides his Harley Davidson to clear his head.
- 23:20 – Take time so your natural thoughts can come out. Whatever it takes, you need to take care of you!
- 23:52 – Clients will benefit as you are working out of desperation and lack of focus. Create raving fans that see you are focused and living a 10, not the 4.
- 24:34 – Live your life intentionally. Focus on the areas that you want to work on. If exercise is not it, that’s fine. It is YOUR life. Choose your 10’s and what is important. B’s 10 is a pizza with bacon, breadsticks and a drink.
- 25:32 – Quote of the Episode: “If you don’t take care of yourself, it won’t matter if you take care of your clients” -B; You can be the best agent in the world, but if you aren’t happy with your life, you become a “shell” of a person. Fill your heart with all the things that matter to you. Clients will see it and will enjoy the experience even more.
- 26:18 – Closing: Look at the 5 categories of your life (family & friends, career, financial, physical, and mental health); take an introspective look at each; rank them from 1 to 10; what does a 10 look like to YOU?; This is a journey, get help. Help yourself agents, YOU are worth it!! We are here for you too. Reach out if you'd like to talk!
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