Choosing Your Struggle
-To be satisfied in life we need something to do, someone to love and something to hope for - Immanuel Kant
Today Rob and Steve talk about choosing your own struggle to find meaning and purpose in life.
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Time code and Topics
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00:04 Big intro to the episode.
00:54 Having something to hope for and look forward to in life.
01:27 Life can be a struggle.
02:00 Steve’s busy week breakdown.
02:39 If you’re not having fun you’re not doing it right.
03:18 Busy good or bad?
04:12 Figuring out what’s ticking under the hood.
05:15 Man’s Search for Meaning - by Viktor Frankl.
06:30 Finding some meaning through suffering.
07:57 Being a psychiatrist in a concentration camp.
08:28 Locus of control.
09:19 Everything can be taken away from you except your ability to choose your thoughts.
10:23 Transcending suffering and finding some meaning in your life.
11:01 Nietzsche quote.
11:21 In acting we ask find your why.
12:12 Having a reason to wake up in the morning.
12:59 Steve’s Vespa story and priorities.
14:31 Avoiding pain and looking for pleasure.
15:15 There’s a price to pay for everything.
15:45 Steroids. Bearing fruit.
16:47 Distractions and having discipline.
17:00 Choosing your struggle that you chose.
17:41 Contributing to something bigger than you.
18:26 At the deepest level we want to be loved.
19:35 The reason why you may go to the gym, to feel attractive.
20:15 We all want to be liked.
21:05 Finding belonging in your job or work. Job identity.
22:04 The acting agent that culled off their books.
22:45 Steve’s acting agent story of being let go.
23:45 Building an identity around having a good agent.
24:19 Being grateful and finding the right fit.
25:00 Losing something that you built your identity with.
26:00 What’s meant for you won’t pass you by.
27:47 A chosen struggle.
28:14 We want to have a pay off.
28:52 Finding the meaning behind the struggle.
29:29 The Four Noble Truths of Buddhism.
29:58 All life is suffering. Inherent in life.
Truth 1 Suffering, pain and misery all exist in life. At some point we all experience this.
Truth 2 Suffering is created from personal desire and craving. Attachment to an outcome or wanting something to be a certain way : eg: fame
Truth 3 Selfish craving can be overcome. The theory of non - attachment
Truth 4 Freedom of suffering - the path to enlightenment 8 steps Right view, right intention, right speech , right action, right livelihood, right effort, right mindfulness, right concentration.
39:35 “Attachment is the origin, the root of suffering, hence it is the cause of suffering” -
Dalai Lama.
40:17 “Act without expectation.” - Lao Tzu “He who is attached to all things will suffer much.- Tao Ti Ching.
41:11 The 8 Steps to Enlightenment. Buddhist View.
42:11 Having awareness of your actions, what you say and do.
43:00 The art of right living.
43:11 The Law of Attraction explained.
44:32 Concentration vs distraction.
45:17 Meditation and it’s moments of clarity.
46:00 Don’t be so hard on yourself. We are human and imperfect.
46:30 Michael Singer* ( correction, not Salinger!) The Untethered Soul.
46:47 Who is that voice in your head?
48:27 Rob’s Mexico story.
50:13 The Deepak Chopra 12 Steps of Waking up to your true self.
1 Make conscious choices.
2 Choose words - embody empathy, compassion, joy avoid shame, guilt, hostility, fear.
3 Question your habitual certainties and habitual responses , food, social interaction.
4 Learn to see your body as a field of awareness. Body awareness ie; yoga.
5 Be immune to criticism but open to feedback.
6 Be a silent witness or non-judgmental to your inner dialogue.
7 Observe eye movements, facial expressions, tone of voice, body language, they reveal the inner world.
8 Shift perspectives, 1st person, 2nd person, 3rd person.
9 Understand mind body proclivities-the tendency to choose or do something regularly.
10 Practice self inquiry, the nature of reality.
11 Cultivate witnessing awareness in sleep - dream awareness.
12 Transcend all thought and experience mantra.
1:22:30 Deepak Chopra @deepakchopra on Instagram
1:24:39 Recommendation of your daily practices.
1:26:30 Outro music.
