In this week's episode, we are thrilled to have a special guest with us - our new puppy, Pluto! He was a great assistant throughout our recording. We are happy to update you on our dryer as well as Shelley's continued choices to wear clothing from two decades ago. Moving onto more important things - we talk this week about dealing with intrusive thoughts during the recovery process, in particular for her.
Here are some of the things we cover:
- Know that this is "normal" and apart of the impact of the trauma. It's not where we want women to stay long-term but it does serve a purpose short term in helping us move through the grief.
- There are also plenty of times when we need to contain the thoughts in order to be present and revisit the thoughts later. We give three strategies to help with this containment: brain stop, prayer and vaulting it.
- Suggesting she just STOP thinking about the past, looking at evidence of the past, etc. - is harmful. Let this be HER process, not yours.
- It can be important to ask the question - is there a gap in safety somewhere causing her to ruminate / obsess during certain situations (when he is at work, goes to the grocery store, etc.)? And instead of asking her to stop ruminating - figure out what she needs to feel safer.
We are so glad YOU are here, thanks for joining us!
