Sometimes when in a heated argument, both parties would want to prove that they are right and even raise their voices to prove their point. The truth is we cannot always be right as much as we want to, and sometimes even if you’re the offended party, you can still choose to let peace reign.
RULE 1 - Listen, Acknowledge And Then Give Your Statement
Whether it’s with your partner at home or a colleague at work, it’s important to avoid raising your voice at each other when there’s a heated argument.
If you find yourself shouting at each other, stop immediately and allow the person to say when they need to.
By playing the mature role, you’ll also find that the other party will lower their voice as well, even though they may still be talking at you.
Listen, let them know you’ve heard them, then give your statement once they finish talking.
In this state, they are more likely to listen to what you have to say and apologize for the wrong they caused if they are at fault.
Someone has to stop talking when there’s a heated argument; let that person be you!
RULE 2 .Do Not Increase Your Tone Or Change Your Body Language
Your body language is critical
You have to check that!
Do not increase your tone. If you already did on impulse, lower your voice; you could even sit calmly if you were standing up and just allow the next person to bare their minds.
Our ego is going to suggest some hurtful words that we will regret saying later
RULE 3 Understand The Person’s Emotions
Give people the benefit of the doubt. Maybe something terrible is going on in their life.
RULE 4 Don’t Drag Old Topics Into Current Argument
Thats the worst. Bringing old things is a sign of depression and high ego. Someone is NOT letting go and not able to forgive. HUGE RED ALERT.
My favorite response to this is :
“This is like you’re trying to rob the house I used to live in. I’ve moved on.Even if you succeed, I don’t live there anymore, so you can’t hurt me”
RULE 5 Help Them Feel Like They Won The Argument As Well
Pick your battles, most of the times it’s not worth it and if you make them feel like they won, and later they apologize they will appreciate your grace. If they don’t you saved yourself the precious time you would have lost trying to argue your point. Arguments, debates always have multiple winners, all parties feel they are right in the heated moment
