The Sh word, we call it the Sh word because we don’t use it at home..
The reason why this word is not to be used in our immediate love center is because the word simply creates the feeling of GUILT.
Guilt is a self destructive feeling. Which means we can destroy ourselves by feeling guilty.
When you say YOU SHOULD - you're creating guilt in someone else - that’s an asshole move, because you’re now destroying them.
Sometimes we do terrible things, consciously, unconsciously , intentionally or unintentionally, under the influence or over the influence we do it. We think about it and we regret and we repent and we don’t want to do it anymore - we decide to never do it again. What else can we do —--we must stop feeling guilty, because otherwise we will destroy ourselves for something we cannot reverse.
Don’t get me wrong - we must always take responsibility for our actions and OWN our mistakes, but the feeling of guilt is NOT necessary especially after we make amends.
SOMETIMES IT’S NOT FAIR YOU WOULD SAY. LIFE IS NOT FAIR, BUT SO AS GRACE.
WE’VE ALL BEEN LET OFF THE HOOK WAY TOO EASILY MANY TIMES IN OUR LIFE. INARGUABLE - THAT WASN’T FAIR EITHER.
I know it’s a cliche - you can’t change the past - and it’s true. BUT, YOU HAVE ALL THE POWER TO CHANGE YOURSELF AND STOP DOING THE WRONG THINGS
See, when we feel guilty we are more likely to surrender and justify why we continue to do these terrible things.
If we forgive ourselves and get rid of the guilt we can move on with a fresh start and live our life with joy and pleasure.
WHY? Because everyone is equally good and equally bad depending on the perspective. Obviously there are some extremely evil people and extremely kind and nice people. But we don’t know the circumstances on how they became these people. Was it pain or blessings, was it personal choice? We can’t judge, and we can’t continue to judge ourselves 1000’s of times for the same mistake. That’s what Guilt is.
So instead of SHOULD - we say COULD —- COULD put you in a position of power. I could work out or I could watch netflix - I’m in charge.
I Should work out and I don't. That means I lie to myself, I don’t show up for myself. If I don't show up for myself, can I trust myself? No
If I can’t trust myself - can I trust other people? No, because other people are just like me.
So, I will start to lie to others, just like I lie to myself - and I will disappoint others like I disappoint myself. Oh why don’t others trust me and invite me - because I don't do it.
Why are others unkind to me - because I am unkind to myself.
Be kind to yourself - put yourself in a position of power - say I COULD.
Even better version is GET TO
GET TO, put you in a position of gratitude. I get to go to the gym - my neighbor is in a wheelchair and he’s not able to . I am so grateful that I get to run in the rain and feel the grass with my bare feet - many people are not able to, so I am fortunate.
I get to be a father. I get to work. I get to run . I get to make money. I get to lead , not I should.
GET RID OF GUILT - GET RID OF SHOULD.
#Give2Get
