Pain with Benefits
In this episode, Tom digs into the difference between pointless suffering and meaningful pain. Inspired by Suffer Better and a deeply moving chapter about friendship, loss, and legacy, Tom challenges the idea that grinding yourself into the ground automatically makes you stronger.
Pain only has value when it produces growth, connection, or clarity.
Through stories of physical endurance, personal dysfunction, and the rare beauty of deep male friendship, Tom reflects on what truly fills the tank: shared experiences, honesty, vulnerability, and brothers willing to walk life together. This episode is about choosing endurance over empty suffering, healing over hustle, and relationships over performance.
Pain is inevitable.
But when it leads to wholeness, connection, and purpose—
it comes with benefits.
Yup. I got you.
What you agree with gains permission to operate in your life.
