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Have you ever looked back on a past relationship and thought:
Why did I stay so long?
Why didn’t I see the signs earlier?
If only I had done something differently…
Relationship regret can be incredibly painful. Many people find themselves stuck replaying the past, analysing every decision and blaming themselves for how things turned out.
But in this episode, I explain why this mental loop is not actually helping us heal.
In psychology, the “should have, could have, would have” pattern is known as counterfactual thinking. It’s a form of rumination where the mind tries to solve an unsolvable problem - the past.
And while it feels like we are trying to understand what happened, what is often happening underneath is emotional avoidance.
Beneath regret there is usually something much more vulnerable:
Grief.
Grief about the relationship.
Grief about what we hoped it would be.
Grief about the loss of the future we imagined.
In this episode, I explore:
I also look at an important reframe:
Relationships are often our greatest teachers.
Even the painful ones can reveal important truths about our emotional needs, our patterns, and the schemas that shape our relationship choices.
When we approach our past with compassion rather than self-blame, we open the door to healing and to making wiser choices in the future.
If this episode resonates with you
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