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Owning My Part
This is about bravely accepting my role in relationships with Cluster B individuals. It’s not about blaming myself or excusing their behavior, but about reclaiming my power. Both truths can exist: I didn’t cause their abuse, nor did I deserve it. Yet, I participated in a harmful dynamic. Holding this awareness is a sign of strength.
Why Cluster B?
As a trauma survivor, I might be drawn to Cluster B personalities due to positive traits like empathy and loyalty, not weakness. Inconsistent love or caretaking in my past can make chaotic dynamics feel familiar. Intensity might be mistaken for deep connection. Past trauma influences how I perceive relationships.
My Patterns and Boundaries
I tend to overgive, struggle with boundaries, and believe love requires endurance. Without boundaries, these beautiful traits can lead to self-abandonment, making me vulnerable to Cluster B individuals. While they are responsible for abuse, my own goodness can make me accessible. Reasons for staying, like remembering the good times or seeing potential, are also explored.
Breaking Trauma Bonds
Trauma bonding is a key factor in these harmful relationships. The cycle of highs and lows creates a neurochemical addiction. Leaving feels like withdrawal, a biological response. Minimizing red flags earlier on, often to avoid grieving a lost dream, kept me trapped. The path forward involves taking responsibility without self-hatred, learning about attachment, understanding trauma patterns, building boundaries, and listening to my body.
Empowerment Through Choice
The message is empowering. Gaining agency by recognizing my own patterns is different from remaining powerless by blaming others. Agency is choice, not guilt. Without examining my role, I risk repeating harmful relationship cycles. Looking inward is the way to end them, allowing me to hold compassion for myself while honoring my survival and choosing growth. This is adult healing, self-respect, and true power.
