Description

In the second episode of the All About Marriage series, Larry Vinson and April Bordeau build on the foundation of healthy communication by addressing a topic every couple faces: conflict resolution.

April reframes conflict as an unavoidable part of being human and being in relationship. Rather than something to fear or avoid, conflict can either disconnect couples or draw them closer—there is no neutral outcome. This episode focuses on how couples can approach conflict intentionally so it becomes a pathway to connection, growth, and forward movement rather than division. 

Three Foundational Steps to Conflict Resolution

April outlines three core steps that set the stage for healthy conflict resolution:

1. Check your intent. Enter the conversation with the shared goal that both partners walk away feeling like they’ve won and grown closer.
2. Have a heart talk. Clarify what the conflict means, how it feels, and what each person is hoping for before trying to solve the problem.
3. Invite God into the conversation. Pray together for unity, wisdom, and direction—not to “win,” but to move forward together with humility and purpose.

When couples begin conflict with these three steps, many secondary arguments lose their power and intensity. 

Encouragement for Listeners

Conflict resolution is a skill that takes time, practice, and patience—especially when there is a long history attached to the issue. April reassures listeners that they do not need to navigate difficult conversations alone. With guidance and support, couples can move through even deeply tangled issues and come out stronger on the other side.

Resources & Support

Visit caretochange.org to explore marriage resources, podcasts, videos, and recommended readings. Couples who feel stuck or overwhelmed are encouraged to schedule counseling or marriage coaching with Care to Change. Even a few sessions can help couples gain clarity, connection, and forward momentum.