Description

Parents aren’t the only ones providing co-regulation — we need it too. In fact, connection is a biological imperative for every nervous system, including yours. When you’re raising kids with big, baffling behaviors, the imbalance in reciprocity can be exhausting, isolating, and even grief-inducing. But here’s the truth: you don’t have to do this alone, and there are real, meaningful ways to find the connection your nervous system longs for.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• Why co-regulation isn’t just for kids — it’s essential for parents too
• How predictability and cues of safety help you know where to find connection
• Why imbalance and grief in parenting make sense — and what to do with them
• How communities (even online ones!) can be powerful sources of connection and safety

Resources Mentioned on the Podcast:

• When Connection Isn’t Safe- Oppositional Series Part 3 {EP 158}
• When Connection Isn’t Safe- Oppositional Series Part 4 {EP 159}

Read the full transcript at: RobynGobbel.com/biologicalimperative

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