People pleasing is different from cooperation.
People pleasing is different from cooperation.
Cooperation = connection, no loss of autonomy, requires frustration tolerance
People Pleasing = abandoning self because it is too scary or uncomfortable to regulate through the rupture in the relationship.
People pleasing is a stress-response. It’s a behavior that the “Trickster” possum uses when the possum pathway is activated.
If you aren’t sure what I mean by possum pathway, check out this podcast/blog: https://robyngobbel.com/possumbrain
I also describe the owl, watchdog, and possum brain in my free eBook, Focus on the Nervous System to Change Behavior
Some folks call this people-pleasing behavior “fawn.”
I call this “trickster” behavior.
Read a summary of this episode and access the full show notes at: RobynGobbel.com/PeoplePleasing
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