What if you could put your worst trigger on pause, and finally hear what it's trying to tell you?
In this episode of Triggered & True, emotional health consultant Laura Duncan and co-host Brian Freise walk through one of the most practical tools in the Compassion Method: the Remote Control Exercise.
It's a step-by-step way to move through a trigger at the moment and not to fix yourself, but to comfort the wound underneath and reopen your heart to receiving love.
Laura uses the image of a puppy with a hurt paw. The puppy, who's normally friendly, now nips at the very hand trying to help. This explains why we push comfort away exactly when we need it most.
Then she and Brian walk the five steps: pause the person or situation to stop the blame cycle, get honest about your big reaction emotions, funnel down to the tender ones underneath (it always comes back to sad, scared, or lonely), name which of the needs you're missing in that moment, and finally bring yourself compassion — before you "unpause" and step back into the world.
In this episode:
🔹 The Remote Control Exercise — a five-step way to walk yourself through a trigger in real time
🔹 The "puppy with the hurt paw": why we bite the hand that tries to comfort us
🔹 Why step one is pause — how stopping the blame cycle makes everything after it possible
🔹 Getting under the anger: how big reaction emotions funnel down to sad, scared, or lonely
🔹 Why this is discovery, not a fix — and why Laura waits before teaching it to anyone
Dive deeper with these two great resources! 👇
📕 Get your copy of Brian's book Above All Else: Winning the War for Your Heart Click here to get the book!
📩 Get your free Weekly Dose of Compassion — two short notes in your inbox every week. One to speak over yourself. One from Laura: https://www.lauraduncan.com/pl/2148814868
