Last week, we started a conversation about people pleasing, overgiving, and what happens when helping everyone else starts hurting you.
This week, we're going deeper. Because the real issue isn't helping people. The real question is: Who are you if nobody needs you?
Many of us learned that being useful was the safest way to receive love, approval, connection, or a sense of worth. We became the helper, the fixer, the caretaker, the strong one. We learned to anticipate other people's needs while often ignoring our own. But eventually, that way of living catches up with us.
The exhaustion.
The resentment.
The feeling of being unseen.
The disappointment when the people we've given so much to don't show up for us in the same way.
In this episode of Cacao Conversations, we're exploring the deeper wounds beneath people pleasing and the hidden cost of building your identity around being needed.
We talk about:
-why helping others can feel so good
-the difference between love and validation
-overgiving, burnout, and resentment
-why so many helpers struggle to receive support
-healthy community versus rescuing -what happens when your worth becomes tied to your usefulness
-how to begin reconnecting with your value beyond what you do for others
Because being needed is not the same as being loved.
And your worth was never meant to depend on how much of yourself you give away.
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Julietta Wenzel
Founder of Body & Soul Ministries
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Dorice Ross
Elder of Body & Soul Ministries
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