We all have an answer ready when someone asks us what we want.
More peace.
More freedom.
Better relationships.
More purpose.
More time.
More money.
Less stress.
But what if that answer isn’t actually true? What if the reason you don’t have what you say you want… is because a deeper part of you doesn’t feel safe having it?
In this episode, we’re talking about:
The difference between what you say you want and what your system is prepared to hold
How conflicting desires keep you stuck (freedom vs safety, visibility vs approval, growth vs belonging)
The nervous system’s preference for the familiar — even when the familiar hurts
What would have to change in your life if you actually got the thing you’ve been asking for
The responsibility, visibility, and grief that often come with expansion
Why goals can feel unsafe
The hidden payoff of staying the same
Subconscious loyalty to old identities
Why trying harder isn’t the answer
And how to begin aligning your desires with your capacity to receive them
Because sometimes the truth is… You don’t actually want what you say you want.
You want what feels safe.
And until those two things match — nothing changes.
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Julietta Wenzel
Founder of Body & Soul Ministries
Instagram: @bodyandsoulministries
Dorice Ross
Elder of Body & Soul Ministries
Instagram: @rossdorice
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