Part of growing in Christlikeness is learning to be an honouring person. It is, however, hard to be honouring when we are fed up with people, especially when we find them irritating.
Over the years, I have learned to remove โ๐ฎ๐น๐๐ฎ๐๐โ and โ๐ป๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐ฟโ from my relationship vocabulary. โAlwaysโ and โneverโ are rarely factual. When you use phrases that include โalwaysโ or โnever,โ you are telling others that they cannot do anything right, and that you donโt believe they can ever change! This will only discourage them and make them feel condemned.
Keep the focus on the present situation, and be specific and factual. Learn to ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฐ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฟ๐ผ๐ฏ๐น๐ฒ๐บ, ๐ป๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ผ๐ป. When we do that, we are using the situation as an opportunity to help someone become smarter and wiser, and to be more effective and efficient the next time. But if we get into personal attacks, the plot is lost, the problem is not solved and our relationship sours.
Jesus carries a strong anointing of God because He carries a spirit of honour. We must do the same! By the grace of God, letโs learn to be honouring towards people around us.
