We like being positive, but that doesn’t mean never feeling negative feelings. It means accepting and allowing them in without judging yourself. And especially for women, those depressed and existential feelings come once every month. So what can we do about it?
Takeaways
- We let others have space to work emotions out, so we must allow ourselves time to do the same.
- Holding space is easy. When you feel some sort of negative feeling, accept it. Give yourself a time limit and allow yourself to feel everything you feel. Don’t worry about trying to sort through the issue at that moment. Just allow yourself to get all your feelings about whatever is bugging you out of your system. Do this with a time limit so you’re not wallowing endlessly. Whether it’s 10 minutes, 1 hour, or 3 hours.
- Make up action steps to take after your time limit.
- Don’t justify your feelings with thoughts; just feel them. Thinking could lead to snow-balling worse feelings. They are just feelings and by nature they come and go.
- Distractions are what we do to numb or avoid feeling our feels rather than dealing with them.
- It’s healthy to take your mind off what’s bugging you through productive, healthy “distractions” but the key to getting through what’s bugging you is first accepting your feelings and allowing yourself to feel what you feel. Remember, time limit.
- Dreams are a window to our subconscious and the unresolved feelings that we may have.
- Hormones play a large role in emotional regulation, but it’s possible because of food and other products with added hormones, our hormones are even more out of balance.
- Take care of your body, listen to your pains. Don’t tough stuff out.
- Make time for yourself, in addition to your family
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