In this latest conversation with our favourite Boomers, Barb and Tim revisit the topic of avoidant attachment—why it happens, how it shows up, and what it feels like when you're in a relationship with someone who has it. Building on their previous discussion, they explore the nuances between dismissive and fearful avoidance, the classic pursuer–distancer dynamic, and why so many people are suddenly recognizing these patterns in themselves and others.
Tim opens up about his own disorganized attachment style and the healing work he’s done through self-awareness and Internal Family Systems therapy. Barb shares her experience growing up in a chaotic home and how that shaped her people-pleasing tendencies. Together, they break down the common signs of avoidance, the cultural factors that can influence it, and the emotional “dance” that often forms between anxious and avoidant partners.
It’s a thoughtful, honest conversation about recognizing our patterns, understanding the people we love, and learning how to move toward healthier, more connected relationships.
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