Dating shouldn’t feel like an HR interview. We dive straight into how personhood forms through early bonds and how those patterns quietly script who we chase, who we avoid, and why some relationships feel like home while others feel like work. Jack Bohanan, certified Somatic relationship coach, brings a grounded, experiential approach to attachment that moves beyond labels and into lived change—where the body, boundaries, and honest feedback reshape your style of relating.
We unpack the classic anxious–avoidant loop in plain language and talk about how to build secure behaviors without turning your identity into a diagnosis. Jack explains why Somatic’s client-centered, experiential sessions can feel “more therapeutic than therapy,” including consent-based touch, explicit boundary practice, and practitioner ownership of projections. You’ll hear simple but powerful skills—receiving a compliment without deflecting, pausing for regulation, and making small specific requests—that create a new internal map you can carry into love.
Then we zoom out to culture. Jack shares a vivid story from Colombia that contrasts U.S. dating with unfiltered feminine expression and examines the current tug-of-war between gender essentialism and neutrality. Biology matters, but it isn’t destiny; roles evolve with safety, technology, and independence. The goal isn’t to cosplay retro polarity, but to meet as two whole people whose energy fits because both are present and real. Expect honest nuance, practical takeaways, and a humane path toward connection that feels alive and steady at the same time.
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