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You get to choose what you want to experience, create, and become. That starts with getting honest about the life you want and putting that vision on paper. Choosing your destiny means giving your life a clear direction and becoming willing to move through the discomfort that comes with creating something new.
In this episode, Mike shares his complete free course, Choose Your Destiny: Start Playing Offense, with a new introduction. Drawing on his own transformation, he explores defensive patterns, creating a vision for your health, wealth, impact, and relationships, and practicing visualization and embodiment. He also shares how daily action, accountability, and community can help you keep moving toward a life you’re excited to wake up to.
Key Takeaways
- Recognize Where You’re Playing Defense.
Playing defense means making choices around avoiding experiences you don’t want, such as failure, judgment, rejection, or being alone. Mike invites you to notice where avoidance is directing your decisions and get clear about what you actually want to experience. - Name the Protective Patterns That Keep You in Familiar Circumstances.
Mike calls these patterns adaptive protective programs, or APPs. Perfectionism, people-pleasing, and avoiding failure can influence your choices long after you learned them. Recognizing and naming those patterns gives you a chance to choose how you move forward. - Create a Vision That Gives Growth Meaning.
Write down what you want in your health, wealth, impact, and relationships, including how you want to feel. Give yourself room to dream without needing to figure out every detail of how or when it will happen. A clear vision gives purpose to the discomfort you encounter along the way. - Practice Being the Person You’re Becoming.
Mike introduces visualization and embodiment as daily practices for connecting with your vision. Picture yourself living that life, explore how it would feel, and use the Installing Future You meditation to support the practice. Then carry that vision into the choices and actions you take throughout your day. - Build Support Around Your Vision.
Accountability and community can help you recognize when you’re slipping back into defensive patterns and reconnect with what matters to you. Mike shares how coaching, the mastermind, workshops, and retreats support this work. You get to take the steps with people alongside you who encourage and challenge you to keep going.
Notable Quotes
- “Going on offense means not allowing internal discomfort to control us, to manipulate us, to stop us, to prevent us from doing the thing, from being the person, from having the thing.”
- “When we're clear about exactly what it is we're looking to create, we give meaning and purpose to that discomfort.”
- “But again, I'm gonna encourage you, the what of your vision is your responsibility. The how and the when are not.”
- “And then after you see that for a while, drop into your body and start to feel that it's already complete, feel that it already exists and sit like that as long as you possibly can. Sit like that as frequently as you can.”
- “We don't allow it to master us, we master it. We name it, we sit with it, we realize it, but we move forward.”
Choose Your Destiny.
Take some time today to put your vision on paper. What do you want to experience in your health, wealth, impact, and relationships? How do you want to feel when you wake up each day? Get clear, sit with that vision, and choose an action that moves you toward it.
Get the free Choose Your Destiny: Start Playing Offense video course, including the workbook and Installing Future You meditation:
https://learn.innerwealthglobal.com/chooseyourdestinystartplayingoffense
Explore the Choose Your Destiny Live Virtual Intensive beginning in November:
https://learn.innerwealthglobal.com/chooseyourdestinyvirtualintensive
For private coaching, the Inner Wealth Mastermind, and upcoming events, visit InnerWealthGlobal.com or email Mike@InnerWealthGlobal.com.
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Music Credit: "What's Left of Me" by Wes Hoffman & Friends
