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This week I sit down with Raul and talk about myself. It isn’t the direction I thought the episode would go but it was the direction it needed. We recorded this just days after losing someone very close to me. I found him and had to explain to his family that he’s no longer with us, so we talk about grief and tragedy and a little bit more about my story and where I come from. So enjoy this raw vulnerable and slightly angry episode and get to know me a little better.
Summary/Time Stamps:
- Introduction to this week's episode. 0:04
- Welcome to this week's episode of jacking reality.
- Loss of john wilkie.
- What happens when you lose someone you care about and people want to make it about them. 2:01
- The speculation and speculation surrounding the death of her husband.
- People who make it about them.
- Being sensitive and supportive to those who are suffering.
- The one thing she'll never understand.
- Taking a moment to say to that person what they need.
- Grief is hard and hard.
- My life is marked with tragedy. 9:06
- Tragedy is what marks all of her timestamps.
- Tragic events in her life.
- The impact of the death of her mother.
- The fallout from her mother's death.
- How he coped with his grandfather’s death as a kid. 12:26
- Uncle bob was not well.
- Grandfather died on Thanksgiving morning.
- Being part of a family with four sisters.
- Being the weird kid in the closet.
- Being curious about how people fit in.
- How she dealt with her grandfather passing.
- What it was like to be 12 to be told “you can’t know this”. 18:59
- Being told no and being told no.
- How anna reacted to her aunt's death.
- The gift of life being too short.
- The first funeral he attended.
- What else do you not know about your family? 22:53
- Tragedy and tragedy in the family.
- The story of how uncle joe showed up in Jamaica.
- Uncle joe's last name was never discussed.
- Grieving the loss of his grandfather.
- How to deal with the loss. 28:00
- Holding on to the what is.
- Keeping him at arm's length.
- Waves of grief are at times untenable.
- The tools she has developed to deal with grief.
- The skills he’s learned from losing so many family members. 32:58
- Losing three siblings in less than a year.
- Best friend's dad died in high school.
- The blessing of having a big family. 35:21
- The blessing of having a huge family.
- How 40 years of loss has changed her perspective.
- The gift of being a people pleaser.
- The loss of her ex-husband.
- When you know you’re the shit right now. 40:32
- Fear of letting her light shine.
- Finding her joy and finding her passion.
- Do you have to be the center of attention to have your light shin
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