Description

In this heartfelt and insightful conversation, John Marshall sits down with Humessence coach, mentor, and dear friend Don Fries to explore the deeper dimensions of coaching and leadership development. Drawing from a 38-year career in the oil and gas industry and his journey into executive and retirement coaching, Don shares how leaders can build self-awareness, embrace vulnerability, and stop getting in their own way. The conversation dives into the power of shifting from "I need to" to "I want to," the importance of values-based coaching, and a practical framework — the Control, Influence, and Accept model — that helps leaders reclaim their time, priorities, and presence. A rich and authentic episode for anyone looking to lead more intentionally and live more fully.

Connect with Don Fries: Website

Takeaways

• Self-awareness is the starting point for meaningful leadership growth.
• Shifting from "I need to change" to "I want to change" transforms motivation and accountability.
• Values-based coaching helps clients align their actions with what matters most to them.
• Leaders who share their development goals create psychological safety for their entire team.
• Vulnerability is not weakness — it is one of the most powerful leadership tools available.
• The Control, Influence, Accept model is a practical framework for managing overwhelm and reclaiming priorities.
• Saying yes to everything means silently saying no to yourself, your team, or your strategy.
• You cannot change people against their will — you can only influence their will to change by doing work on yourself.
• Consistency in small habits is far more powerful than intensity or duration.
• Being truly present is one of the greatest gifts a leader can offer their team.

Visit The Present Professional webpage on humessence.com and learn more about how we support leadership development and culture enablement at growth-stage organizations.

Thank you for listening.

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