Can long-term love really stay exciting, vibrant, and surprising — even decades in? The answer from global wellbeing research is a clear yes. In this episode we dig into the science behind what keeps long-term relationships emotionally alive, deeply connected, and resilient over time.
You’ll learn:
✨ The two strongest predictors of daily wellbeing,
✨ Why great relationships need both security and growth
✨ Three science-backed habits that help couples stay curious, connected, and fulfilled for decades
If you’ve ever wondered how to avoid the “seven-year itch,” reignite passion, or strengthen your bond, this episode offers practical, research-based tools you can start using today.
⏱️ Timestamps
00:30 — Why people believe long-term love fades
01:02 — What 130,000 people taught researchers about wellbeing
02:28 — The two psychological needs that shape all relationships: security and growth
03:35 — How long-term couples keep relationships alive
04:43 — The first habit: Seeing your partner as a “foreign country”
09:25 — The second habit: Doing new things together
10:58 — The third habit: Adding new variables (other people, situations)
12:35 — Summary: Bringing security + learning into relationships
14:55 — Kindness narrative: a neighbor reaches out
For full shownotes, including resources mentioned, go to: https://www.calmyourcaveman.com/episodes/how-to-stay-in-love-for-the-long-haul
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