Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to talk about one of the topics that truly changed my life- Self worth.
This episode walks you through the step by step process on how to build a foundation of self worth. I share answers to frequently asked questions, my favorite book recommendations, and practical strategies that you can start implementing TODAY so you can start to build unconditional self worth. Transformation doesn’t come from information, it comes from implementation.
But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.
Forming a Foundation of Self Worth [01:30]
- “Self worth is different from self esteem. Self worth is the idea that we deserve to be alive, be loved and deserve great things.’” [02:20]
- “Confirmation bias is your brain saying, ‘I knew this was going to happen, I knew he would do that, I knew she would do that, I confirmed my belief, I am happy out.’” [03:50]
- “It doesn’t matter what you have on the outside that either confirms your self worth or rejects it, if you cant determine your own unconditional self worth you will spend your life in survival mode.” [05:00]
- “Then we fall to the coping strategies that very temporarily take away the noise of not being good enough- but because they don’t give us what we actually need, they reinforce that ‘What’s wrong with me?’ feeling.” [6:30]
- “It doesn’t matter what we want in life if we don’t believe we are worthy of having it we either won’t attempt to go for it or when we get it we can’t let ourselves enjoy it.”[8:10]
- “Why am I so unhappy? I have everything I ever wanted.” [8:50]
- “Separate your self worth from the outside. You are worthy because you are born.” [9:35]
- “I am worthy because I am here. I am not worthy because of how much I get done. I am not worthy because of my relationship status. I am not worthy because of how many followers I have or how many likes I get.” [11:20]
- “It’s never too late, or too early, to develop that unconditional self worth.” [12:20]
Strategies for Self Worth Transformation [12:30]
- “Step 1 is awareness. You can’t change what you’re not aware of.” [12:45]
- “The only way you can start using your brain so it works for you, not against you, is awareness.” [13:20]
- “I want you for 1 minute, before you brush your teeth, to do self awareness. You are noticing, observing, and not judging. Be the observer.” [16:50]
- “Another thing that helps with self awareness is journaling. Just having a blank page and doing a brain dump.” [17:55]
- “Another thing that helps with self awareness is talking to others.” [18:05]
- “Catch criticism and turn it into compassion.” [18:50]
- “Nobody’s life is made better by you being hard on yourself.” [19:50]
- “Mirror Work: Looking yourself in the eye and giving yourself the approval, validation, attention and affection that you’re constantly looking for inside of yourself.” [21:25]
- “Women of worth know that the only person that can define their self worth is themselves.” [25:00]
- “Set the bar so low that you can step over it. Gain confidence and build momentum so you can be successful.” [25:30]
Book Recommendations [25:50]
- The Mastery of Love Don Miguel Ruiz [26:00]
- Heal Your Life Louise Hay [27:00]
- The Gifts of Imperfection Berne Brown [27:25]
- Radical Acceptance Tara Brach [27:45]
- A New Earth Eckhart Tolle [28:15]
Q + A [28:55]
- Best way to build up unconditional self love [29:00]
- Tips on Doubt [31:00]
- Switching from external validation to recognizing your self worth [33:30]
