Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! Today we are diving into the inner critic and everything you need to know to stop letting it control your thoughts.
This episode is packed full of tips, recommended reads, and guidance for stopping self sabotage. I walk you through how to identify your inner critic so you can face it head on instead of ignoring it. We will also talk about powerful strategies that you can use to start overcoming your negative inner critic and becoming the best version of yourself.
But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the third episode of OUR podcast.
Unlearn the Inner Critic [01:10]
- “One of the biggest blocks to unconditional self worth is our inner critic.” [01:20]
- “It wasn’t until I switched out criticism with compassion that I really started to embody self worth.” [02:35]
- “We all struggle with the same things. We all share the same pain. We all want to avoid inner pain and move towards happiness.” [04:05]
- “We aren’t born with a really harsh critic- it’s a habit that’s been very hard wired and very powerful.” [05:25]
- “You can unlearn the bad habits and re-learn the good ones.” [06:00]
- “You don’t want to get ot the end of your life and think, “Crap, I spent my whole life criticizing myself, others, my life.’” [06:55]
- “Your inner critic is that negative, internal running commentary in your mind. It’s made up of all of the judgement(or perceived judgements) that you have internalized to be true.” [07:30]
- “It’s not what happens to us in life, it's the meaning we give to it.” [08:15]
- “Your inner critic is driven by fear and it’s rooted in shame, and worry.” [10:05]
- “When you see people acting out it’s coming from a place of unmet childhood needs. A huge part of that is where the inner critic became loud as a child.” [11:50]
- When your core beliefs are formed from age 0-7, your brain has limited emotional cognitive and reasoning skills. That’s why we call these limiting beliefs-they were formed when we had limited access to our brain.” [12:45]
- “Instead of changing the behavior, change the belief.” [13:30]
- “Negative self talk coming from the inner critic will never give you the life you want-it will keep you stuck.” [14:25]
- “Negative thoughts turn into facts if they’re unobserved.” [15:00]
- “We can’t ever get rid of our inner critic. When we ignore it, it intensifies.” [16:30]
- “Self doubt is actually self protection. Your inner critic tells you things because it believes you’re incapable of handling more psychological pain ”[17:05]
- “When you build up your self worth and resilience and you’re in control not the inner critic, you have so much more freedom and energy.” [18:15]
- “Your inner critic cares more about you belonging than it does about you having a big dream or passion.” [19:00]
Mental strength strategies [19:30]
- Awareness-you can’t change what you’re not aware of. [21:10]
- Meet your inner critic and reassure it that there is nothing to be scared of. [22:20]
- Self judgement is not helpful, choose self awareness. [23:00]
- Accept what’s in the moment and don’t attach meaning to it. [23:50]
- Inner child healing EFT or Feeling unlovable EFT [25:50]
- Catch it, Challenge it, and Change it [31:00]
Book Recommendations [32:00]
