Long ago, I began to say the words heard, held, honored. I liked the way they sounded, and they felt good, but I wasn’t sure what they were all about. Recently, as I’ve been having conversations centered around conflict, I began to understand that what I wanted most is to be heard, held, honored. I don’t care about being right. I have no need to convince anyone of anything. So, the next time you have a conversation centered around some kind of conflict, consider how important it is for you to be right, then consider how important it is for you to be heard, held, honored. This difference could take a lot of pressure off the conversation. And give everyone space to breathe.
