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What happens when love becomes a shield that prevents necessary growth? In this powerful episode, Matt Brown examines the complex psychology behind enabling behaviors and offers practical strategies for breaking free from destructive patterns that keep both families and their addicted loved ones stuck.
Drawing from over two decades of experience as an interventionist, Matt compassionately challenges the notion that addiction is simply about poor choices. He reframes addiction as a survival mechanism—sometimes the only thing keeping someone emotionally afloat despite devastating long-term consequences. This perspective shift opens the door to understanding why both the addicted person and their family members remain locked in patterns that perpetuate suffering.
The heart of this episode revolves around two transformative questions families must confront: "Have I enabled the addiction?" and "Have I been harmed by it?" These seemingly simple inquiries demand brutal honesty and lead to the most difficult realization—that we cannot control others, only ourselves. Matt walks listeners through the emotional parallels between addiction and codependency, revealing how both stem from avoiding uncomfortable feelings.
Perhaps most valuable are the practical insights on boundary-setting that actually works. Matt explains why boundaries must have integrity, why consequences matter, and how starting with smaller, manageable boundaries builds credibility over time. His approach empowers families to reclaim their lives while still supporting recovery in more effective ways.
For anyone caught in the exhausting cycle of enabling a loved one's addiction, this episode provides both the compassion and clear direction needed to begin making meaningful changes. Matt also announces a new weekly West Coast family support call starting June 15th at 8pm Pacific, complementing the existing Monday/Thursday calls—all completely free and designed to help families navigate these challenging waters.
Join us Every Sunday at 8:00 PM PST and Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday Night at 8:00 PM EST/5:00PST for a FREE family support group. Register at the following link to get the zoom information sent to you: Family Support Meeting
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SoberHelpline.com If you or someone you love is struggling with addiction, you do not have to navigate it alone. Sober Helpline offers confidential, family-focused support designed to help you understand what is happening, reduce chaos, and take clear, healthy next steps—without pressure or judgment. From practical guidance and education to real-world tools for setting boundaries and finding ethical help, Sober Helpline exists to support families as much as the person struggling. Learn more and access support at SoberHelpline.com.
Intervention on Call is on online platform that allows families and support systems to get immediate coaching and direction from a professional interventionist. While a professional intervention can be a powerful experience for change, not every family needs a professionally led intervention. For families who either don't need or can't afford a professional intervention, we can help. Hour sessions are $150.
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