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“The insidious impact of the father wound in our nation is the greatest issue facing our culture right now.  It is impacting marriages; entire families and it will impact generations yet to be born.”  Dr. Chuck Stecker. 

Biblical understanding – what this wound looks like and the impact of not having it.   Jacob stole the blessing of his father.  It says that when Esau heard his fathers word, that Jacob had already stolen the blessing, he cried out with a loud and bitter cry and asked his father to bless him as well.  In the Old Testament, that was not an option.  This was before Jesus comes and now all sons and daughters can be adopted in the family of God and receive not only their fathers blessing with multiple children, but also know they can have the blessing of their heavenly father.  

Even society has identified with the alarming fatherlessness in America, the gender dysphoria that has arisen,  One Ivy League university identifies that one of four students struggle with the sexual identity.  This can all be traced back to the removal of the father from the family and the inability to bless his children due to his own struggles.  The father is responsible for affirming the identity of their children of who you are, and whose you are.   

How do you know if you believe you have received your fathers blessing?  One simple question can help you with that:  What will it take to gain the approval of your father?   Is your value fully attached to what you do (always trying to earn approval) verses who you are (adding value to those around me out of an overflow of identity – not to seek their approval).  

The danger all of this creates is how we see and relate to our earthly father; is how we see and naturally relate to our Heavenly Father.   If we have a significant father wound it is difficult to relate to loving, forgiving and Holy God, who is much different than even the best earthly Father.   We assume that God must be a certain way because my earthly father was that way.  

In our world today we see so much that is anti-manhood and labeled as toxic masculinity.   When men step into our role as a Godly man, we have the opportunity to change the world in which we live.  

MMC encourages you as man, whether you are pastor, leader of men in your church, a businessman, or a man in any role who is considering how God is calling you and wants to use your life, and to commit to being part of a group of men, who will: 

  1. Connect with a small group of men who will consistently meet and encourage one another in the faith 
  2. Learn to trust these men and become vulnerable with your own version of a Father wound and allow their love for you to help heal this wound
  3. Allow these men to unconditionally love you and help you reframe how you see your heavenly father and how you gain your identity by knowing and accepting that you are a love child of your Heavenly Father. 
  4. Be accountable to these men as they are to you to not settle for the cultural norms, but be a man who makes a difference, starting with your family.   

Gordon Dalby – The Healing of the Masculine Soul 

To reach Chuck Stecker – Chuck@achosengeneration.org    www.achosengeneration.org

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Book:  The Healing of the Masculine Soul   Gordon Dalby     Buy this on Amazon