So many men are missing a father’s blessing. “You cannot give what you do not have” says Dr. Chuck Stecker. It has developed into a curse today resulting in fatherlessness, broken homes, and has landed our country in a place of catastrophic proportions and a massive decline in our culture.
What is the antidote that is required to be able to receive a blessing? The term came from the Old Testament when we see Esau cry out that he also wanted what the eldest son had received from his father. In the Old Testament only the eldest son could receive a blessing.
Then we move to Jesus Christ in the New Testament and what is being said to Him as he rises up out of the water of baptism: “This is my beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased”. Since we are co-heirs with Jesus, it is now available for all of God’s children. God the Father, through earthly father’s and spiritual fathers, are the conduit of the Heavenly Fathers Blessing. We bless our sons and daughters. We are doing what God does for us — He blesses us as His son, for who He has created us to be, not for what we do or contribute to this world or to the Kingdom.
It is our job in our life to understand what the wound is in our life that causes us to medicate in some manner. In almost every case, it can be tied back to our father’s lack of a blessing. Repeating the question from the first session: What did we have to do to gain our fathers approval? When did your father tell you he was proud of you? Was it what you did, or who they are? We see our earthly father is how we view our Heavenly Father. If our dad picked at us, then we see God as a picky God. If we felt loved for who we are, we can accept God’s love.
Understand the main step is to get to the issue, rather than treating the symptoms.
Smalley and Trent in their research project and resulting book, lay out Five Key Steps to a Meaningful Blessing:
Fathers remember you cannot give what you have not received. It is never too late for you and for your children. Even if you have never received it, God still wants to bless you either directly or through a spiritual father.
Resources:
To reach Chuck Stecker – Chuck@achosengeneration.org www.achosengeneration.org
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Book: The Family Blessing Rolf Garborg
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