In this episode of Dem Bois Podcast, I get the chance to sit down with someone who is just starting out on their gender journey, Tommy Colby McCray. Tommy is a serial writer and uses writing as a therapeutic outlet for stabilizing their mental health. They share their journey of self-discovery, navigating gender dysphoria, and the complexities of choosing a name that resonates with their identity. We also discuss family dynamics, personal loss, and the impact of these experiences on mental health.
Please note: Tommy changed his name after this recording.
We talk:
10:01 Navigating gender identity and name selection
19:58 Family dynamics and personal loss
29:51 Creative aspirations and Tommy’s writing process
40:06 Finding community and support
50:53 Reflections on loss and regret
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Read more about Tommy in his bio below:
I am just learning myself as not only a serial tv writer but as a person who's just been diagnosed with gender dysphoria
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