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In this episode of Top Self, Shanenn explores one of the most confusing and isolating experiences for anyone who struggles with jealousy: watching a secure person stay completely calm in a situation that would send you into a spiral.
Starting with a vivid poolside story that will feel painfully relatable, Shanenn breaks down why secure people aren’t blind to what’s happening around them—they just don’t assign the same meaning to it. She explains how your brain builds stories based on its existing “library” of past experiences, fears, and beliefs about yourself, and why that library is the real difference between jealousy and security.
Plus, she introduces a powerful new tool—the Meaning Audit—three simple questions you can use to interrupt the spiral and start thinking like the secure person you’re becoming.
Golden Episode Nuggets:
💎 Secure people see the same things you do—they just don’t assign the same meaning to them
💎 Your brain is a meaning-making machine and it pulls from your existing library of fears, wounds, and beliefs
💎 True security comes from trusting yourself to handle whatever comes, not from guaranteeing your partner will never hurt you
💎 The spiral isn’t about the photo or the party, it’s about the fear underneath
💎 Security isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill, and it’s learnable
Quote of the Episode:
“Your jealousy is not the enemy. It’s been trying to protect you from the things that scared you the most. But at some point, that protection has become a prison. And you deserve to be free.” – Shanenn Bryant
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