We open this episode on a yacht in San Diego Bay — silky robes, pirate ships, debating whether to jump into very questionable Coronado waters — deep in conversation with a brilliant restaurateur from a small town in Italy. He asked my advice and posed a question: I know I need to collect failures. But I get too much positive feedback. Where am I going wrong?
My answer: I don't buy it.
From there, this episode becomes a masterclass in what it actually means to put yourself out there — and why if you're not failing, you might not be going far enough.
What you'll learn in this episode:
- Why "I don't see evidence of failure" usually means one of two things — and neither of them is that everything's going great
- How praising kids (and ourselves) for being good at something actually causes us to stop taking risks — straight from the research in Mindset
- The real reason we don't recognize our own failures — and why your brain might be actively hiding them from you
- My own recent failures: from missing my husband's best friend energy, to a chaotic first three weeks of summer, to courses delayed, a book half-written, health issues from 20 years of athletic yoga, and a friendship changed by necessary boundaries
- Why every item on that failure list is there because I’m putting my full heart into my life — and what that means for yours
- Why if you're not failing, you may be depriving the world of something only you can give it
- The design thinking concept of failing forward — and how mastering the Gain instead of minding the Gap makes it easier and more fun
- Why measuring progress against your ideal is a logical fallacy (your vision isn't real yet — it's a steering mechanism, not a measuring stick)
- Why measuring from where you started kicks you into higher brain function, makes you more creative, and actually makes you statistically more likely to hit your goal
- The two questions I leave you with to uncover how YOU can fail bigger, better, faster, MORE.
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