What are boundaries really? Because kids naturally don’t like rules, they will always try to break them, negotiate, not do it, … But I also didn’t want to force, push, or yell at my daughter if she said no or didn’t listen.
Because I didn’t want her to grow up into being me: the one who always listened and never said no out of fear, and ended up becoming a resentful people-pleaser, walking on eggshells not to make mommy mad = afraid of not being loved.
So is it even possible to have rules and get them respected without yelling and all that drama around it?
I won’t sugar-coat it, this one took me a while to figure out because I didn’t have any healthy role models growing up.
So this is where I’m at with it right now, perfectly imperfect…
You can catch this episode on Youtube at https://youtu.be/FK8UCjILepc
Hi, I’m Alena - founder of Zen Supermom and creator of the IDTR method (Intergenerational Developmental Trauma Repatterning).
I work with thoughtful, committed parents who have already tried to understand themselves - and still find themselves reacting under pressure in ways they don’t want.
My work focuses on changing the underlying pattern that formed early, shows up in the nervous system under stress, and gets passed on to the next generation unless addressed as a whole.
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