THE NON-CONSENSUAL DYNAMICS IN VANILLA RELATIONSHIPS
Dom-sub dynamics are built on Consent.
Dom-sub dynamics are built on the two people being in Agreement with each other.
Without this agreement/consent, there is no scene between Dom and sub; there is no dynamic between Dom and sub; there is no relationship between Dom & sub.
We even create a provision for both Dom & sub to exit their scene in case either of them comes out of consent in the middle of a scene. This what safe-words are for.
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By contrast, vanilla relationships are rife with lack of agreement between the two people.
Husbands and wives live in a state of disagreement with each other.
Boyfriends and girlfriends are in a constant state of negotiation and bickering with each other.
From the perspective of Consent, these people are NOT in consent in their relationships.
Most husband-wife relationships, most boyfriend-girlfriend relationships are occurring out of consent!
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Living in this state of non-consent is the crucial problem at the center of most relationships.
To create happiness, come into agreement with your partner.
It is entirely up to you who you partner with, but if you want a functioning and thriving relationship, the key to that harmonious relationship is that the two people be in agreement with each other.
— Om Rupani
www.OmRupani.org
