This one is for the men who are productive. Driven. Capable.
They get things done.
But when things slow down - when there’s no next task, no clear win, no immediate goal - something feels off.
In this episode, Andy explores The High Achiever: the man who learned early that worth comes from movement, performance, and progress. The man who looks successful on the outside, but feels restless, disconnected, or absent on the inside.
This isn’t an episode about burnout.
It’s about what happens when achievement becomes identity — and presence quietly disappears.
You’ll hear how high achievement often functions as a form of emotional avoidance, why stillness can feel uncomfortable or even threatening, and how this pattern shows up most clearly in relationships — where men are physically present but emotionally elsewhere.
The episode closes with a simple but confronting distinction:
Achievement is something you do.
Presence is something you are.
You don’t need to and shouldn't stop striving.
But you might need to stop running.
In this episode:
Reflection
Who are you still trying to prove yourself to?
If this episode landed, don’t rush to change anything.
Just notice where achievement has become a shield - and where doing has replaced being.
Series:
This episode is part of The 8 Masks Men Wear — short reflections on the survival identities men adopt, and what it takes to move beyond them.
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Email: andy@andynathan.co.uk
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