After recent midpoint conversations with clients in her group coaching program, CLAIMED, Monique noticed a common thread: many women deeply want community, but still hesitate when it is time to post, reach out, ask for help, or let others know what they need.
That hesitation is something Monique recognizes in herself. She shares how it surfaced after her grandmother’s passing, when even reaching out to a close friend felt tender and awkward. From there, she explores what it means to get used to being held, especially when you are used to being the one who holds everything and everyone else.
Sometimes support is available, but people cannot tell how much you need it because you still sound capable, polished, and in control. This episode invites you to notice where you may be making support harder to access, imagine what being held could actually look like, and begin practicing the courage to name what you want out loud.
GEMS DROPPED
“We have to get used to the idea of being held. And that is actually a bigger barrier than any of the other challenges like not living close by or being in different time zones than family.”
“You deserve to continue to stretch into and to build this new muscle of learning to want what you want, to say what you want out loud, and to let people in to your neediness because it's natural to have the needs that you have.”
“I know what it feels like to not feel permission to access support that has been clearly granted to you, to not text or leave the audio message for the girlfriend when you are struggling.”
“It's all of the little to medium sized things that can stack up, stack up, stack up, stack up, stack up, and can create, a lot of distance between you and the potential for closeness that you desire with others.”
STAY IN TOUCH
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