Welcome back to Loving Me Before I Love You, where we stop romanticizing survival bonds and start telling the truth about what love actually is.
In this episode, I’m joined by Dr. Ibbie, licensed mental health therapist and social psychologist, widely known as The Attachment Doc. Dr. Ibbie specializes in attachment theory and relational trauma healing, helping individuals and couples understand the patterns that keep them stuck, anxious, avoidant, or emotionally starving in relationships that feel intense but unsafe.
This conversation gets real about:
• the difference between love and attachment
• why chemistry is not compatibility
• how childhood wounds wire adult relationships
• anxious, avoidant, and disorganized attachment patterns
• what secure attachment actually looks like in real life
• how to stop mistaking emotional intensity for love
If you’ve ever stayed because it felt familiar, chased because it felt urgent, or tolerated because leaving felt unbearable, this episode will put language to what your nervous system has been screaming.
Connect with our guest:
Social Media: @dr.ibbiearo
If today’s episode cracked something open and you’re ready to heal intentionally:
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This is Loving Me Before I Love You. Attachment will keep you bonded to pain. Love will never ask you to abandon yourself.
