Show Notes
In this 10th episode of Season 4, host Bobby K. welcomes Fern Sherkin-Langer to discuss the emotional journey of caring for an aging parent with mental health challenges. The conversation explores the reversal of roles when a daughter becomes the primary support for her mother, touching on themes of anxiety, depression, and the importance of support systems.
Key Topics & Tools Discussed:
- The "sandwich generation" and balancing care for both children and aging parents.
- The emotional impact of role reversal between parent and child.
- Tools and strategies for supporting a parent with mental health issues:
- Proximity and moving closer for easier support.
- Hiring daily support/caregivers.
- Using music and playlists for comfort and memory.
- Walking, fresh air, and change of scene.
- Meditation and mindfulness (and the challenges of adopting new habits in old age).
- The importance of self-care for caregivers ("You can't pour from an empty cup").
- Accepting help from others and building a support team.
- Taking things "one minute at a time" and not being afraid to say "oh well" when things don't go as planned.
- The power of nature and physical activity, even in small doses.
- The physiological and psychological complexities of late-life depression.
- The value of lived experience and peer support.
Special Mentions:
- Link to Jacob Langer’s song "State of Mind" (included in the show notes).
- Announcement: "No Magic Bullet" has received charitable status as of September 22, 2025.
- Teaser for next episode: "From Out of Nowhere" coming in November.
Takeaway Message:
If you or someone you know is supporting an aging parent with mental health challenges, remember:
- It’s a marathon, not a sprint—pace yourself and practice self-care.
- Build a support network and accept help.
- Find tools that work for your family, whether it’s music, movement, or simply being present.
- You are not alone, and sharing these stories helps others find their own toolbox.
Links
State of Mind
https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=xj0bDP0vOv0
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