In this episode of Information for Life, we delve into the significance of emotional availability in romantic relationships. We explore the foundations of true intimacy, the role of secure attachment, and the journey towards emotional vulnerability and secure attachment. Join us as we discuss the pros and cons of being emotionally available, backed by relevant research.
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