Six Types of Boundaries: Physical, Sexual, Intellectual, Emotional, Material, and Time.
Some Codependent Red Flags: Saying yes to everything (overextending yourself), neglecting yourself and your needs, avoidance, rescuing others from the problems they created for themselves, excuse making for others, if something happens to someone else you feel like it’s happening to you, taking care of people’s toxic behaviors, one-sided relationship
Counterdependency: Difficulty being vulnerable, can’t / won’t ask for help, fearful of being close to people, push people away, loneliness, do it all by yourself
Responses to Setting Boundaries with Difficult People: Pushback, testing limits, rationalizing and questioning, defensiveness, silent treatment, guilt, anger, manipulation, and possibly personal attacks
The Language of Boundaries: “I need…..”, “I want…..”, “I expect……”
Use short clear statements for what your boundaries are going to be. Avoid vague, loose, undefined language, ie. “maybe….”, “as long as it’s not too often….”, “it’s not that big a deal, but….”. Remember, you will likely need to set the new boundary multiple times.
Self Care Boundaries: What do you do to take care of yourself and how do you honor that time?
Boundaries Sound like:
