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Today, we're diving into a topic that affects us all. Managing hurt feelings. We all experience that emotional pain sometimes in our lives. But what does science actually say about how we can effectively deal with these hurt feelings?
Our DTY Highlight this week is from Felicia G. Selman, MSN, RN, CAPA. I wish you could have seen the smile on her face and her enthusiasm in sharing this with us.
The "RETHINK" Framework provides a memorable guide for effectively implementing cognitive reappraisal in your daily life.
- Recognize Negative Thoughts: Be mindful of negative thoughts that contribute to your hurt feelings. Acknowledge and identify them as they arise.
- Evaluate the Evidence: Evaluate the evidence supporting these negative thoughts. Challenge their validity and consider alternative interpretations or explanations.
- Turn the Tables: Flip the script on negative thoughts by turning them into positive or balanced statements. Reframe the situation in a more constructive light.
- Harness Empathy: Practice empathy towards yourself and others involved in the situation. Consider the perspectives and intentions of others.
- Illuminate Alternatives: Illuminate alternative viewpoints and possibilities. Expand your thinking by exploring different angles and potential outcomes.
- Navigate with Neutrality: Aim for a neutral and balanced perspective. Strive to see the situation without excessive emotional bias, fostering objectivity and clarity.
- Keep Practicing: Consistency is key. Continuously practice cognitive reappraisal to reinforce positive thinking patterns and develop a resilient mindset.
Let me know if you find the RETHINK framework helpful... juli@reimaginewellness.org
If this is something that you are working on, I'm leaving this affirmation here for you. Make it your own, modify it to make it personal:
Affirmation Statement:
"I honor and validate my hurt feelings, allowing myself to acknowledge and embrace them with compassion. I am resilient and capable of managing my emotions with grace and understanding. I choose to reframing negative thoughts into positive ones, and
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