In this episode, Kathy welcomes Dr. David Drake, founder of the Moment Institute and a pioneer in narrative coaching, to delve into the fluid nature of identity. David shares his compelling journey, from joining MENSA to surviving a near-fatal car accident, which led him to reassess what truly defines identity.
David and Kathy explore the concept of identity as something ever-changing rather than static. David introduces the views of Robert Bly on the 'shadow'—the parts of ourselves suppressed from a young age—and stresses the importance of reclaiming these aspects in the second half of life. He underscores the need for a more open, learner-focused mindset, both personally and within organizations.
Their discussion traverses the challenges of personal transformation, co-creating mindful environments, and navigating professional identity's impact on learning and adaptation. David explains his innovative approaches, including narrative release practices and a map exercise designed to help individuals uncover the impact of significant life events on their identity.
In this episode, Kathy and Dr. Drake discuss:
Timestamps:
[00:00] Transitioning to a learning community with new projects.
[09:07] Grieving and illness shape identity but not consumed.
[14:06] Reflecting on past choices to make better decisions.
[20:40] Letting go of self-limiting beliefs and experiences.
[24:35] Unconscious societal pressure hinders self-acceptance and growth.
[31:54] Reflect on leaving, arriving, and self-awareness.
[33:15] Discovering disruptive past and facing unresolved issues.
[39:20] Rites and rituals shape community and transformation.
[45:46] Encouraging self-reflection, witnessing, and practicing communication.
[54:04] Desire to go back to core for change.
[01:00:23] Organize content to avoid old mindset thinking.
If David was crushed up and put into pill form, what effect would he want to have on someone?
Being kinder to yourself
More About Dr. David Drake
Visit The Moment Institute’s website
Connect with Dr. Drake on Linkedin
Dr. David Drake is Founder/CEO of The Moment Institute. He has been a pioneer in the coaching space for 25 years, including as the founder of Narrative Coaching. He is a key Advisor for Ovida, an AI-informed start-up that accelerates the development of
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