This episode on Before You Cut Bangs, we’re talking about something that should be simple… but somehow feels like advanced emotional calculus:
Receiving gifts, compliments, help, and kindness. Maybe a casserole you didn’t ask for. Perhaps a gorgeous candle from a friend when you... you guessed it... got them nothing.
Why is it SO HARD to say thank you without immediately blurting out, “Oh, this old thing? I’ve had it for 12 years,” or “Girl, it was $5 at Target,” or the classic Southern special:
“You didn’t have to do that!” (Spoiler: They wanted to.)
Claire walks us through her brilliant “garland” practice—yes, garland, like the Christmas kind—and why we need to throw away the emotional tinsel that keeps us from letting good things in.
Laura gets vulnerable about walking through a season of capacity and emotional poverty and how hard it was to learn how to receive from her friends.
We cover:
Why women self-deprecate the minute anyone says something nice
Why receiving feels like guilt, debt, or competition
Why you panic when someone brings you a gift and you have nothing for them
How receiving is actually a spiritual practice
Why receiving is the gateway to giving (and to healing)
How to stop making it weird and just say… THANK YOU.
Listen now and share with the friend who says “I don’t need anything…” while absolutely needing everything.
