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As a leader, have you ever found yourself tightening your grip when the pressure goes up? You start second-guessing decisions, jumping into details you should have delegated, and demanding to be copied on every email. On the surface, it feels like being responsible. But internally, it feels heavy, exhausting, and like you're the bottleneck.

This isn't a sign of bad leadership; it's a sign that the stakes have become personal. It's a symptom of a deeper, hidden fear: the fear of being exposed as not good enough.

In this episode, Lisa Jeffs pulls back the curtain on the "high-achiever's trap" and the role that hidden shame plays in causing even the best leaders to micromanage. You'll learn why this pattern shows up, the massive cost it has on you and your team, and the path to moving beyond it. This is a masterclass in shifting from a leader who controls through fear to one who leads with quiet, unshakable confidence.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

• The #1 reason why successful leaders start to micromanage and become a bottleneck when pressure increases.
• How to recognize the "shadow behaviors" of shame in your leadership style (perfectionism, control, overthinking).
• The real-world story of a senior executive who was successful but miserable—and the one core belief that was driving his burnout.
• Why awareness of a problem isn't enough, and the steps required to truly "transmute" a limiting belief.
• How to move from being a "high-achiever" to a "truly influential" leader by building deep, internal safety and self-trust.

Key Takeaways & Timestamps

• [00:00] The Hook: Is your sense of responsibility secretly becoming a bottleneck?
• [02:30] Why 2026 is the year of radical self-leadership and why internal work is your greatest point of leverage.
• [05:15] The High-Achiever's Trap: Why leaders tighten their grip under pressure and start to micromanage.
• [08:45] The role of hidden shame and insecurity in driving perfectionism and the need for control.
• [11:20] Case Study: The successful (but miserable) executive and the one belief that was shaping his entire leadership style.
• [16:30] Why "awareness" isn't enough and the danger of getting stuck in the awareness stage.
• [20:10] The true meaning of "having it all" on your own terms by aligning with your core values.
• [22:00] How to work with Lisa in 2026.

If you recognized yourself in this episode, the leader who is successful but feels the constant pressure to control everything... the work we do together is designed for you. This isn't about pushing harder; it's about removing what's throwing you off.

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