Does it feel like complaining is helpful? While it can feel productive, Heidi argues that it doesn't lead us to the results we want.
Take aways
*Sometimes we complain because we are trying to make things better. But it doesn't work.
*Even if we get what will satisfy the complaint, we don't feel better.
*Venting is not always a good thing.
*Feel emotion rather than skipping over it or avoiding it.
*Your body is very able to take care of anger if you allow it to.
Time stamps
01:28 Why we complain
02:36 Sometimes we complain to fit in
04:04 We don't complain when we are satisfied or feeling happy
05:29 Complaining can be a habit
06:58 Even if we get what will satisfy the complaint, we don't FEEL better.
08:31 What things DO happen when we complain?
08:38 Hypothetical example... I get fired from my job
08:53 Look at the WHAT rather than the WHY
10:16 Possible actions that will come from anger
11:18 Has any good come from the complaining?
12:36 The results of Hypothetical Heidi's complaints
13:08 Feeling emotion
16:30 Analogy of barfing everywhere vs in the toilet
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