Stimming behaviors, when properly understood and supported, can be bridges to connection rather than barriers to inclusion. What might appear unusual to neurotypical people serves crucial self-regulating functions for those with autism or ADHD.
• Stimming (self-stimulatory behavior) includes repetitive movements like hand flapping, rocking, or vocalizations
• These behaviors help individuals self-regulate emotions, cope with sensory overload, or express feelings
• Mimicking stimming can either build connection or feel offensive depending on the individual, context, and relationship
• Observe stimming to understand its purpose rather than immediately trying to extinguish it
• Create safe spaces where appropriate stimming is allowed and encouraged
• Only redirect stimming when safety becomes an issue
• Use clear, simple language when communicating with someone who is stimming
• Provide gentle warnings, predictable routines, and calm environments when transitions are necessary
• Remember that stimming represents effective self-regulation strategies, not behaviors that need elimination
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