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If he wanted her so badly, why didn't he just date her?
It's one of the most common questions people ask after discovering an affair, but after years of private conversations with men, I don't think the answer is as simple as people make it seem.
In this episode, I explore what I've observed about cheating, sexual compatibility, communication, fantasy, and the conversations that never happen inside many relationships. I also discuss why some men seek experiences outside their relationship while having no intention of leaving their partner, and why understanding the motivation behind an affair is not the same as excusing it.
We also talk about sexual shame, the Madonna-whore complex, porn, adult platforms, non-monogamy, and why assumptions often replace honest conversations long before someone steps outside the relationship.
This episode continues a conversation that began during Spicy Spectrum Live, but goes deeper into what I've observed from years of listening to men share the parts of themselves they often keep hidden.
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