Description

This is THE episode to share. After 100 episodes and years of working with couples on mismatched desire, I'm breaking down the 10 mistakes that keep you stuck—from obligation sex and taking rejection personally, to making every touch sexual and believing someone is broken. These patterns make total sense, but they backfire hard. If you or someone you know is dealing with a desire gap, start here. You'll learn what's keeping things stuck and exactly what to do instead.

The 10 mistakes:

1. Trying to 'fix' your partner instead of the dynamic
2. Having obligation sex to keep the peace
3. Taking rejection personally
4. Believing scheduling sexy time is not "natural"
5. Being defensive about sexual feedback
6. Making all physical affection have to lead to sex
7. Chasing your partner (pursuit-distance trap)
8. Not knowing your own body
9. Expecting only spontaneous desire to be "real"
10. Believing someone is broken or wrong

For each one, you'll learn why it backfires and exactly what to do instead.

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