Episode 56: Want vs Need: The Freedom Formula Every Coach Must Master
Episode Summary:
In this transformative episode, hosts Ryan Lang and Brook Bishop explore the critical difference between optimizing for want versus need, revealing how this mindset shift is the key to true entrepreneurial freedom. They challenge coaches to examine where they're still building their own prisons by focusing on scarcity instead of abundance, and share the uncomfortable truth about what you must let go of to get what you actually want.
Key Takeaways:
- (02:48) The paradigm shift from looking in the rearview mirror to dreaming big like when you were a kid
- (10:06) Want equates to freedom while need equates to constraint - understanding this fundamental difference transforms your approach to goals
- (22:35) The massive cost of apologizing for what you want and how it leads to inevitable self-sabotage
- (25:16) The power of vision boards and getting clear on what you want without timeline constraints
- (35:23) The uncomfortable truth: getting what you want has more to do with what you let go of than what you do
- (38:59) Three critical questions to audit where you're optimizing for scarcity instead of abundance
Notable Quotes:
- "When we're optimizing based on need, I believe we just build ourselves another prison. Because literally a focus on need is an immediate no to what you want." (10:06)
- "There is a massive cost for apologizing for what you want. Because every time you do it, you tell yourself that you're wrong." (22:35)
- "Getting what I want has way more to do with what I'm not gonna do, with what I'm gonna let go of, with what I'm gonna say no to." (35:23)
- "Why am I not worthy of wanting something that big? Because I'm the one who's deciding that." (33:35)
Resources Mentioned:
- Dan Sullivan's "want vs. need" framework from Strategic Coach - Strategic Coach
- Ed Mylett's lifestyle and business approach - The Ed Mylett Show
- Sarah Blakely's (Spanx founder) childhood story about failure conditioning - Spanx
- Heritage Profile personality assessment (formerly at Buffini and Company)
- John Assaraf's vision board story from The Secret documentary - The Secret
- Tony Robbins' wealth-building principles and paradigm work - Tony Robbins
Do the Work:
Ready to stop optimizing for scarcity and start claiming your freedom? Grab a pen and work through the three audit questions from this episode: Where are you optimizing for need instead of want? What becomes possible when you stop apologizing for what you want? What do you need to let go of to get what you actually want?
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