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Join us as we explore the psychology of lies of omission - those truths we choose not to tell. We unpack when staying silent crosses the line from protection to problematic avoidance.

The Evolution of Omission

• Why our brains are wired to withhold information for survival
• The "thrown out of the cave" phenomenon in modern contexts
• How children develop lying abilities as early as 2-3 years old as a sign of cognitive sophistication

When Survival Becomes Self-Sabotage

• The shift from isolated, adaptive omissions to problematic patterns
• Warning signs: frequency, loss of conscious choice, and expanding webs of silence
• How omission moves from protecting against external threats to managing internal emotions

Your Emotional Compass

• Guilt: The healthy alarm bell ("I shouldn't have withheld that")
• Shame: When it becomes about identity ("I'm a liar")
• Rationalization: The defensive stage of elaborate justifications
• Numbness: When the warning system shuts down
• Regret: Your future-oriented guide back to authenticity

Reflection Questions

• What conversations am I postponing indefinitely?
• Where do I feel like I’m managing someone’s perception of me?
• What specific fear comes up around my honest thought/opinion/feeling?
• Am I protecting the other person or protecting myself from their reaction to the truth?
• What would change if you were radically honest for one week?

Takeaway

What you don't say matters just as much as what you do say. Learning to recognize when silence becomes avoidance is key to building authentic relationships and genuine self-trust.

📖 Explore More: 

Johari Window in “Blind Spots, Secrets, and the Unconscious” https://youtu.be/rAD5RvexdH8

ACT Choice Point Model in “Face Your Feelings, Find Your Power” https://youtu.be/50a_abZg-to

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Disclaimer - This content is the personal opinions of Christina Caro, PhD and Karen Lee Lynskey and is for informational and educational purposes only. This is not...