Life is hard! Life is overwhelming! And so, we find ways to DEAL.......we avoid, shutdown, numb, forget, disassociate, overeat, etc.
Has that really worked for anyone? If anything, I believe it creates another layer of issues to be dealt with. So, let's expose the pain in a safe, gentle way that allows those events to be witnesses, held, and nurtured. Don't be afraid of the scary trench, it's just your past needing some compassion.